Thursday, September 15, 2016

As I was blog stalking tonight I came across a family that lost a Mother and a Newborn baby girl. It was such a sweet blog as the husband has kept it up and posted his thoughts, feelings, and life for his kids to look back and have one day. The kids now are 6,4,and2.
Of course it got me thinking of life and my family and how grateful I am to have the knowledge that Families can be together forever. At the same time of me reading this blog there was a tv show on and this little boy was asking his dad how to pray and if he thought God could really hear him. At that exact time I was so humbled to know that even thought Parx doesn't get the concept of prayer right now and he just laughs when we open our eyes and say amen. Or that he doesn't know the difference between his truck book and the animated scriptures that I read to him.  Some day he will know the truth and have the foundation he needs to get him through his mortal life.
It made me think how grateful I am for Dave and the choice we made to be married to each other,and to have each other in this life, and raise our kids together. I know that Dave is and will always be the best father to our kids. I'm not saying he wouldn't struggle with out me, or know the day to day things, but I know he would do everything and anything he had to to continue raising our family the way we both would want.
I 'm grateful for my extended family and the fact that they with out question or even blinking twice would not just step in but jump in and help 100%. Even thought I don't always give them the love and support they need or deserve they would do anything for me and my family. To know I will always have the support no matter what happens eases my fear a little.
It made me grateful for the Small trials I have in my life. I really liked the conference talk just last month that said how he had asked to be tested and to have trials to strengthen himself. I will gladly take the ones I have and try not to complain to much.
It made me want to appreciate EVERY little minor thing in my mundane days. Every diaper I get to change. Every bathtime I get to enjoy. Every book I get to read. Every morning cuddle session. The nights I get to just watch tv with Dave. All the things that some will never get to share with their loved ones again.
This is just my toughts and feelings I am having now and didn't want to forget. I wrote this mostly just to say how grateful I am for my life and the blessings I have in it. Not so much for others to see and read.

As I was preparing to turn this into a book I found these few drafts and debated on adding them, but I guess at some point they were important and I took the time to write them so because of that Im adding them.
What we leave behind

My blog has always been mostly a journal for me and hopefully someday my family, hopefully my kids can look back and read this and laugh.
I think it important to not only have genealogy but stories about our family and those who came before us. I love hearing stories from my parents and grandparents. And want to have something to leave to our family. Also because I do have such a bad memory I have to write things down so I don't forget details.
I found some questions for parents to answer for their kids and thought I would leave "useful" information for them as well.
So here's to our future generations..

Dad
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6. If you could have three wishes, what would you wish for?
   I have thought about this a lot and often...
7. What is your dream job, and why?
    Mowing lawns at a golf course. So I get free golf. But only after I make a successful business
8. What are 5 passions you have?
  • Church
  • Family
  • Flo EZ
  • Golf
  • Food
9. Who is someone who influenced you and describe how.
   Grandpa Webb (Kim) the example he set for his family
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.

11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
      Bad drivers, snoring, medicaid patients, entitled people
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
      Wake up, shower, go to work, come home play with Parx if he is still awake, eat dinner, watch t.v., go to bed. Do it over.
13. What’s the hardest part of growing up?
      Learning responsibility
14. Describe 5 and weaknesses strengths you have.
      Strengths: Caring, Positive attitude
15. Describe when you knew your spouse was the one or how I fell in love.
      There wasn't really an "ah-ha" moments. Just when I enjoyed spending time with her more than anyone else, or do anything else.
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
  • Marriage
  • Kids
  • Mission
  • Flo EZ
  • Region champs in pony league ball
17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
      Communication. In church, business etc.
18. What do you think your spouse loves most about you?
      Patients.
19. How did you feel the moment you became a parent?
     Overwhelmed
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
  • Stealing money from aunt Kimi and how bad I felt.
  • Getting my Eagle Scout
  • Opening my mission call
21. Describe your relationship with your parents.
      Easy to talk with.
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
Owning a business, raising kids, enjoying life as a family, and living life to the fullest. For all three.
23. What’s your favorite holiday and why?
      Thanksgiving. see questions 5 & 8. Food!
24. What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about parenthood?
      Favorite: being welcomed home with a kiss and a squeeze
      Least: changing diapers
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
      Christ. Roast and Potatoes.
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
      How liberal the are. And that God doesn't exist.
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
      Bum. Mom helped with this one;)
28. What’s your favorite quality in your spouse?
      The love she has for our family
29. What are your hopes and dreams for your prosperity?
      Be God fearing, respectful proactive members of society.
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.
      Respected, man of his word, honest, charitable, helpful, loving, fun, will to take risks, competitive, a good father.

Mom
1. List 20 random facts about yourself.
2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
  • spiders/bugs
  • Losing a child or spouse. Even though I love reading inspirational books they usually have a trial/tragedy in them and it makes me realize how real that is.
3. Describe your relationship with your spouse.
   A roller coaster
4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
   Date more. Be kind to everyone, you don't have to be friends with everyone just kind to them. Stick with nursing you will never regret it only if you don't. Take advantage of the free college classes, do more classes and really apply yourself. Spend more time with your family and strengthen your relationships with your parents. Talk to your parents and learn from their mistakes. Stay close to your girlfriends. Be an example to your friends. Learn more in church. Save money.
 5. What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?
  • Exercises
  • Getting a good nights rest
  • Spending time with my family
  • Warm weather
  • A good book or show
6. If you could have three wishes, what would you wish for?
  • To be happy in life no matter where or what circumstances I am found in.
  • To always open my wallet and have money in there, not a lot but some.
  • To always be the best parent and wife possible.
  • To be able to fly, I hate driving and traveling to the place I'm going.
7. What is your dream job, and why?
Stay at home mother and wife. I truly believe there is no other place more important while you kids are little. Now I understand not everyone can always do this but I will gladly sacrifice what we need to to make this possible for now. I just love this quote I believe its so true;
"The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only...to support the ultimate career.
But eventually or some day working a couple, no more than 2 days a week as a nurse. Not because I have to but want to.
8. What are 5 passions/hobbies you have?
  • Family
  • Serving others
  • Running
  • Reading
  • Sewing
9. Who is someone who has influenced you and describe how.
 My grandparents. They taught us how to work, to be kind to others, made sure our family was close to each other.
10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.
      I really don't get embarrassed very easily but there are a few stories in our family books so you can pick.
11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.
      Chewing with your mouth open, not covering your mouth when coughing, not using please and thank-you, I guess bad manors in general ( I know it is always a work in progress), a dirty house, not a messy one but truly dirty, farting in a full room, bad drivers, the "F"word,
12. Describe a typical day in your current life.
      Workout before family is up (on a good day).Get baby up. change diaper. Get dressed and ready. Breakfast. Clean/laundry. Play with kids. Read books. Chase. Watch cartoons. Maybe run some errands. Have a play date (if were lucky). Make lunch. change diaper. Nap time. Workout and get ready (if I didn't in the a.m.). Get baby up. change diaper. Snack and drink. Watch t.v. or movie. Play. Run errands. Dad comes home. Dinner. Spend family time. Bath. Get baby ready for bed. Bed time (sometimes the best time of the day:)). Clean up house, finish any jobs I was trying to do. Watch t.v. with dad or read a book. Bed time.
13. What’s the hardest part of growing up?
For me not being able to take the advice "Learn from my mistakes" I have always had to figure things out on my own.
14. Describe 5 and weaknesses strengths you have.
      Weakness:  Honesty, Being negative, speaking before I think, letting things go, being to scheduled/uptight/planned on or with certain things.
     Strengths: Honesty, wanting to help others, hard worker, sense of humor
15. Describe when you knew your spouse was the one or how I fell in love.
      Like Dad said there was never an "ah-ha" moment. But I guess love doesn't always have to be like that. It came to the point where we always wanted to spend time together and then couldn't imagine not being together.
16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
  • You guys!! My family
  • Marring your Dad.
  • Running marathons
as of now
Someday I hope... Becoming an RN

17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?
      Remembering things. Things I learn, have learned, hear, or see. Everything really. I wish I had a photographic memory.
18. What do you think your spouse loves most about you?
      Hahaha the bedroom.
19. How did you feel the moment you became a parent?
      I really don't think I realized what had just happened. It took a bit for it all to sink in and the fullness to come full circle. But the very first time MY child was placed in my arms I felt calm and peaceful.
20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.
  • Me and Sophie taking the suburban out for a joy ride and getting turned in by Grandpa Pudge.
  • Many days and night spent with Grandma Carrie and laying in bed while she told me stories about her and Grandpa Sid ( he passed before I was born).
  • Getting hit in the head with a tennis racket at Grandma Roses by Christa and her taking me to the ER (that's the only time I have had stitches)
21. Describe your relationship with your parents.
     A true Friendship now. When I was younger Bossy.
22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?
5- One or two more kids? Being done having kids. 10- In our own "forever" home finally! back in school. 15- Done with school? Being able to take fun, exocite family trips
23. What’s your favorite holiday and why?
      Oh I love them all for all different reasons. I think they all come at just the right time for what we need right then.
24. What’s your favorite and least favorite thing about parenthood?
      “Motherhood brings as much joy as ever, but it still brings boredom, exhaustion, and sorrow, too. Nothing else ever will make you as happy or as sad, as proud or as tired, for nothing is quite as hard as helping a person develop his own individuality – especially while you struggle to keep your own.” – Marguerite Kelly and Ella Parsons
That says it all. Raising a person and hoping they become a good, honest person is hard and stressful. My favorite is thinking I succeed. My least is thinking I wont.
25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?
 Oh man... Joseph Smith, Emma Smith, Grandma Carrie, Albert Einstein, Jesus, Ryan Gosling, The Prophet. And as for food I couldn't care less
26. What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
     That they are trying to take God and religion out of everything. But blame him for all the wrong things going on in the world.
And that you don't have to work for what you want.
27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?
     I don't know... I could come up with my least real quick.
My legs. they allow me to run and I Love that. My arms, they allow me to hold my loved ones.
28. What’s your favorite quality in your spouse?
      His patients. How quick he is at forgiving
29. What are your hopes and dreams for your prosperity?
      That you will truly learn to be happy! To be grateful for what you have. Work hard for what you want and need. Don't waste your time wishing or waiting for better days ahead or you will miss all the good ones you're have now.
30. List 10 things you would hope to be remembered for.
Serving others, A good mother, A good wife, Humor, Being optimistic,
Home is where your heart is!

Mikel home...
Pros
being able to use our own stuff for the first time in years.
The HUGE master bedroom
New carpet
Basement storage room space for treadmill
Julie and Travis as neighbors
Barn in the back yard
Apple and Pear trees

Cons
Old kitchen, no pantry
The bathroom with shower on opposite end of house
SPIDERS
Weird basement layout. Creepy!


 


House on the highway...
Pros
The back yard!!!!
Donna Lou as a neighbor


Cons
On the highway
Small rooms
TV nook
Spiders
Wasted front room space



Providence house
Pros
Yard and fire place
Boys room with charter
Huge mater bedroom
Christina as a neighbor

Cons
Small/short
Very creepy unfinished basement
Funny toilet and sink in basement
Weird smell in bathroom
Water pressure
Providence
No easy way to ward to play for boys- garage was in basement and side door I couldn't see out from any other part of the house.
Insulation
When I would do the microwave in the winter and a light was on it would short the fuse


Alan and Susan's
Pro
Brought both boys "home"  there
The garden
The wam homey feeling
Garage
Plenty of living space

Cons
It wasn't ours
Living in our parents


The point is we have lived in a lot of different situations and can not wait to have a place to really call our own.

update: September 2015 we FINALLY purchased our first home back in Smithfield.

A few things Parx has been up and said as of late

He told me one day I'm am just a small kid and you are big and can reach it( talking about the broom)
When ever we call him a stinker or turkey he will say no I am a boy.
Can be so sweet to Hendrix. I love when he kisses him good night and says good night buddy love you! Hendrix always gets the biggest smile.


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9months

I feel like this snuck up one me and pretty much passed me by.

Mastered the army crawl and now is very fast
Loves nursing and pretty much only wants to do that
Not a big foodie- see above. But I really need to push this
Jabbers mamma
Very mild mannered
6 teeth
Not a good teether!
Getting tubes this month- see above
Has been sick off and on- again see above, and for as sweet of a baby as you have been when you are sick you don't sleep well and become a little bear!
Follow Parx around as much as you can
Mamas boy

I really wish I had pictures of this but due to the virus on our computers I lost ALL of them.